🌿Letting go through acceptance - On self-leadership, inner peace and the decision for ease

Letting go is one of those words we use often,

when we actually mean something else.

We mean relief.

We mean peace.

We mean the end of an inner struggle.

But we can only truly let go when...

If we accept what we cannot change.

Acceptance is not giving up.

It is an inner acceptance of what is.

Not as agreement.

Not as a justification.

But as reality.

We cannot change people.

Not their patterns,

not their limits,

not their willingness to take responsibility.

We still try it so often.

Out of love.

Out of hope.

Out of a desire to be seen.

But this attempt consumes resources.

He holds us tight – internally.

Letting go begins there,

where we stop fighting

and reclaim our energy.

🌱Self-leadership instead of inner struggle

For me, this is exactly the point,

where self-leadership begins.

Self-leadership doesn't mean having everything under control.

It means consciously deciding,

how close I am to people, situations and topics

let it get close to me.

My limits lie there,

where respect ends.

Where shame begins.

Where aggression finds its place.

Leading myself means,

to respect these boundaries.

For me.

And for my children.

Not out of harshness.

But out of responsibility.

🔆Stay centered

If I accept,

which I cannot change,

Something new is created.

Quiet.

Clarity.

Internal stability.

I remain centered,

even if things are turbulent outside.

Even when relationships change.

Even when things come to an end.

From this center

I can be present.

Regulating.

Reliable.

Not perfect –

but connected.

✨Slowing down, lightness and your own theme for the year

Each year carries its own inner theme within it.

A focus that was not planned,

but wants to be felt.

For me, last year was characterized by slowing down.

It had become too much.

I have reduced, simplified, and let go.

so that peace could be restored.

This year is marked by a different word for me:

💫Lightness.

Not as a condition.

But as an orientation.

I no longer ask myself these questions:

How much longer can I endure?

Rather:

What could be made easier?

What do I no longer need to wear?

🌸Find peace and quiet to listen to yourself

You don't need a perfect meditation practice to find such answers.

It needs space.

Expansiveness.

Moments of silence.

A walk.

A view of the landscape.

The sea, if possible.

Or simply letting the thoughts rest,

without immediately arresting everyone.

This peace and quiet is healing.

It brings us back to ourselves.

Sometimes a simple reverse question can help:

What would I have to do?

So that my life remains difficult?

So that I can ignore myself?

The answers are often clear.

And that is precisely where the decision lies.

Letting go through acceptance

is not a withdrawal from life.

It's a conscious way of managing it.

I assume

which I cannot change.

I let go,

which is not good for me.

And I'm aligning myself

based on what suits me.

That is self-leadership.

That is inner freedom.

Your self. Your freedom. Your life. 🩷