Do you want to play with me? – please don’t.

Why we should stop playing games in relationships.

We all know them:

The little power games.

Consciously waiting to write back.

Hinting instead of speaking.

Keeping warm.

The stalling.

And we also know: It just doesn't feel good.

Especially if you are one of those people who love with an open heart.

Those who don’t play tactics, but show themselves.

Want closeness – not control.

Relationships are not chess games.

Love isn't a strategy game. And it never should be.

If you have to pretend to keep someone, you're not really keeping love—you're just keeping the illusion.

These games are an expression of insecurity, fear of closeness or the desire to maintain the upper hand.

But they are often much more:

An old defense mechanism.

A reflex from the past.

A pattern that sits deep within us – usually anchored in the inner child.

Because many of us have learned that feelings are not safe.

That love is conditional.

That you have to hold back in order not to get hurt.

That you can't be too much.

Not too needy. Not too direct. Not too emotional.

So we hide.

Behind coolness.

Behind supposed independence.

Behind games.

But that is no longer your truth.

Today you are big.

You are allowed to show yourself.

You can say whatever you want.

You are allowed to love – honestly, clearly, without a mask.

And there is no guarantee.

Love is not a contract, not a safety net, not an “if you, then me”.

We decide freely.

For love.

From our abundance, not from need.

Not to please anyone or to keep someone –

but because we are internally free to love ourselves and others.

Free from old stories.

Free from games.

Free from the fear of not being enough.

And yes – loving also means pain.

Because we become touchable.

Because we have to let go.

Because we never know how long it will last.

But happiness does not lie in duration.

It lies in the truth of the moment.

In the authenticity of our connection.

In the courage to open our hearts – even without guarantees.

Love is not a game.

And you are not a pawn on a playing field.

You are a person with an open heart.

And you deserve a counterpart who doesn’t play – but stays.

Your self. Your freedom. Your life.

– I AM WOMAN